In California, the state is a community property state. What this means is that any debts or assets you assume during marriage are shared equally by both parties. If you decide to divorce, then you each should walk away with 50% of that shared debt or income/property....
Divorce
How to protect your kids when your marriage is ending
If your marriage is ending, you do need to take steps to protect your children. You won’t be able to shield them from everything that’s happening, but you do have an opportunity to guide them through a major change in their lives. There are several things you can do...
How to divorce in California without totally going broke
Divorce is often very expensive, but it doesn't have to completely drain your savings account. Having the right attitude and the right help can go a long way toward keeping your divorce costs reasonably low. There are a few important tips that can help you minimize...
How to create a positive co-parenting environment
It can feel awkward and uncomfortable when you are first starting out in a co-parenting relationship with your ex. You will need to learn to communicate in a new way, and this may be challenging at first. As difficult as it can be to successfully establish a positive...
It’s possible to recover from infidelity in a marriage
What do you do if you definitively learn that your spouse has been cheating? It's one thing to suspect an affair, but to have the proof in front of you is quite another. Can a marriage ever recover from such a blow?It is actually possible to save a marriage that has...
Should we do marriage counseling before we divorce?
Marriages break down for any number of reasons — lack of intimacy, bad communication, infidelity and money issues and common causes. But couples often try marriage counseling as a last-ditch effort to save their relationships before throwing in the towel on the...
What happens if I don’t want to get divorced?
When you got home from work the other night, you heard those dreaded words from your spouse: "We need to talk." While that phrase rarely signifies any good news, in this case, the news was particularly bad. Your spouse wants a divorce.While the news blindsided you,...
What do I do if I can’t afford to pay my child support?
You're a divorced parent who shares custody of the kids with your ex. Their other parent is their primary custodian, and as such, receives monthly support payments from you. Or they did until recently.Your recent lay-off at work has caused you to get behind on your...
Stuck in a bad marriage? There is a way out
The pursuit of happiness is such a fundamental right that our founding fathers included it in the Declaration of Independence. Every human being has the right to live their best life in search of that often elusive state.That's why it makes no sense to remain tethered...
Forgot to do a prenup? Do a postnup instead
Maybe you always intended to get your fiance to sign a prenuptial agreement but just never found the right words to broach the subject. Or, you felt that there was no need when you both were broke newlyweds.But now, that internet startup you ran out of the basement...