Marriages definitely have their ups and downs over the course of a couple’s life together. That’s why it can be difficult to determine whether you are just in the trough of a bad wave or need to disconnect your marriage from life support and file for divorce.
If you are unsure whether to try to fix a bad marriage or plan your exit strategy, the following information could be helpful.
The marriage works (but only for one of you)
Your spouse may be completely satisfied with the state of your marriage. But if you are chafing at the bit and have lost that loving feeling, it’s a major problem. Divorce may or may not be in the cards for you, but it’s clear that a frank discussion needs to take place, regardless.
One day you want out, the next you decide to stay
Indecision can be very confusing. It’s all right not to be certain if you want to divorce. You may find that counseling — either separately or as a couple — can help you clarify your needs and make a decision.
You daydream about a life without your spouse
It’s one thing to fantasize about the road not taken, but if all of your dreams are without your spouse present in them, it’s time to reassess your marriage.
You’re not sure if divorce is the right choice
Divorce is the nuclear option in a bad marriage. Often, there are things that you can do that may improve the status of your relationship. Counseling is one. Negotiating for what you need out of the relationship is another. Are you sure that you have exhausted all possibilities?
Before you take any decisive actions to end your marriage, make sure that you have researched the legal ramifications and have sought the counsel of a California family law attorney.
