What do you do if you definitively learn that your spouse has been cheating? It's one thing to suspect an affair, but to have the proof in front of you is quite another. Can a marriage ever recover from such a blow?It is actually possible to save a marriage that has...
Pleasanton Family Law Blog
It’s not too early to hammer out holiday visitation
Divorcing couples typically struggle the most with custody issues. Neither parent wants to cede their time with the kids to their ex-spouse. Yet, children thrive best when they have ready access to both parents.That does not necessarily have to work out to an even...
Should I remain married because of the kids?
There are many good reasons to stay married to your spouse even when the marriage hits a rocky path. But is one of them because the two of you have children together?Traditionally, that has been a major reason why many couples stayed in notoriously bad marriages....
Should we do marriage counseling before we divorce?
Marriages break down for any number of reasons — lack of intimacy, bad communication, infidelity and money issues and common causes. But couples often try marriage counseling as a last-ditch effort to save their relationships before throwing in the towel on the...
Is mediating your divorce the way to go?
When you are going through a divorce, there is a kind of tunnel vision that can occur where you only see the outcome that you want and are closed to other available options. Maybe you are focused solely on retaining physical custody or keeping the home and refuse to...
In California, grandparents can have rights to visitiation
Without a doubt, grandparents and grandchildren form close bonds. But things can happen both within and outside of the family that can strain those bonds.Fortunately, California is a state with one of the more liberal sets of grandparents' rights. Exercising these...
What happens if I don’t want to get divorced?
When you got home from work the other night, you heard those dreaded words from your spouse: "We need to talk." While that phrase rarely signifies any good news, in this case, the news was particularly bad. Your spouse wants a divorce.While the news blindsided you,...
Is altervative dispute resolution right for you?
In recent months, it became apparent that you and your spouse had, in the words of Lionel Richie, "reached the end of your rainbow." Both of you are sure that divorce is the right course, yet you dread the public process that will lay bare all of your family's private...
Get on the same page when the kids start back to school
While this school year will definitely be different than the others, some commonalities remain. One thing that divorced co-parents need to do is to have a united front about school and any extracurricular activities their kids in which their kids will be...
How is intellectual property divided in divorce?
If you are divorcing your spouse, one of the biggest areas of contention besides determining child custody matters is how to split the community property. But if you think that it is difficult to divide tangible property and assets, it's even harder to determine which...
