California residents should consider that divorce doesn’t have to be a negative experience for kids. In fact, a recent article suggests that a number of factors addressed by divorce actually make home life better for children.
One particular way divorce can benefit children has to do with child custody. Child custody, often determined by deciding the best interests of the child, many times grants joint legal custody to both parents. The parents then split time between the children each week or month depending on parental and child scheduling. One benefit of separate child custody is that the children get one-on-one time with each parent.
The article indicates that when parents share child rearing, they take on roles. One parent takes on the role of the nurturer and planner. However, when parents split custody, each parent takes on a nurturer role, enabling the child or children to receive individual cultivation and encouragement from both parents.
Divorce can benefit children in other ways as well. For example, children can sense when there is tension between their parents. A divorce often eases such tension. Additionally, after the end of an unhappy marriage, separated spouses have the opportunity to relax and experience happiness again. Happier parents have a hugely positive effect on children.
Divorce doesn’t have to be a negative experience. When divorcing spouses determine together the best way to divide property and parenting time, all parties can be happier in the end.
California law does consider the best interests of the child when determining custody arrangements. This often means a presumption that joint custody is in the child’s best interests. However, detailed discussions between parents and children will be heavily considered in child custody determinations.
Source: Huffington Post, “Divorce and Kids: Five ways divorce benefits kids,” Dr. Shoshanna Bennett, May 18, 2012