You can’t even seem to have a civil exchange with your soon-to-be ex-spouse. Every interaction is loaded with snark and venom, and it’s clear the marriage is over.
As contentious as your relationship is now, could it even be possible to have a mediated divorce?
It might be. Much depends on what the two of you are trying to get out of your divorce and how willing you both are to work together to achieve your individual aims.
For instance, if the two of you are parents of minor children, mediating your divorce may avoid a scorched-earth divorce where future co-parenting will be a nightmare. If nothing else, keeping the kids’ best interests as your joint priority can nudge you closer to accord on some of the thornier issues.
Also, if either (or both) of you have a high profile in the public eye, e.g., from your jobs or an elected office, you may dread the fact that divorce cases are part of the public record. Anyone with the time and inclination can peruse your file at the courthouse and be privy to private details of your finances and circumstances surrounding the split. Nobody wants that.
A skilled mediator can direct the sessions so that neither spouse strays off-topic and into hot-button issues that set off all triggers. It’s also possible to mediate some matters of the divorce and reserve the right to litigate those that remain. That can still save divorcing couples a great deal of money, which is always a plus.
If you would like to learn more about the benefits of mediation, we can address your concerns and help you reach a decision about the process.