No one should decide to divorce hastily, as this is a big decision with many repercussions — especially if you have children with your spouse.
Sometimes, however, divorce is inevitable. But before pulling the plug on a bad marriage, ask yourself these questions:
What is your goal in ending the marriage?
Are you wanting to keep the family home? Would you rather have a larger share of the retirement benefits? Who will have primary custody of the kids when you split? Defining these goals can help streamline your efforts to extricate yourself from your marriage.
What are your fears and insecurities?
Divorce can be scary, especially for those who have been married for decades. Identifying these fears can help you reach some major decisions about your future.
Are you assuming something that is not a real fact?
In divorce, it’s important to lead with your head instead of your heart. Being overly emotional can cloud your thinking and reasoning. Your family law attorney can help you sort out facts from assumptions.
Do you know all that you need to make intelligent decisions?
Divorce costs you far more than just financially. There are emotional prices to pay when people divorce, e.g., you won’t see your kids as much as you did when married. Make sure that all your decisions are well-reasoned and sound.
What impact will your decision to divorce have in the near future and long-term?
Short-term impacts can include feelings of loneliness, depression, anger and sadness. But long-term, can you envision freedom and new opportunities? You should be able to see some good things ahead for you as well as having to endure the negative emotions that divorce can bring.