California residents understand that there is no question divorce is a difficult process to undergo. Facing a decision to separate from one's, once thought, life partner is never easy. Then, experiencing the harshness of reality when friends and family are notified of the news makes things all the more troubling. Further, the divorce process itself can be harsh to undergo.
During the divorce process, couples must make difficult decisions such as how to split property, determine child custody, agree on custody schedules and distribute alimony. During an often contentious process as divorce, making these already difficult decisions can be even harder when tensions are high.
This is why having vigorous and well informed representation is often so important when obtaining a separation. Legal guidance and strength can mean mountains to one struggling from such emotional decision making. Vigorous legal counsel can identify when a couple might do well under an alternate dispute resolution method, rather than undergoing the adversarial and traditional court room environment.
Divorce mediation for example is a new and popular way for a couple to work through the divorce questions in a more neutral and relaxed environment. With an experienced and qualified neutral to guide the parties and their attorneys to an amicable decision, the separation process can often be made much more tolerable. And in the end, many separated individuals find that divorce was for the better.
Recently, divorced couples came out and vocalized just how their life improved post-divorce. Ex-spouses found themselves changing for the better, discovering how strong a person they are, learning to rely on their selves and living to their potential. Separated spouses also indicated they learned to set boundaries in relationships going forward and not accept unacceptable behavior. Their divorce made them appreciate life generally and particularly the little things.
While divorce can be a truly difficult decision, it is certainly often worthwhile for those unhappy couples who need a change. Ensuring the process is as easy as possible can make the experience more achievable however.
Source: The Huffington Post, "17 Ways Divorce Makes You Stronger," Jan. 6, 2014.