Now that you and your wife have decided to divorce, it is time to start preparing for the process. Your entire life is going to change, from where you live to how often you get to spend time with your daughters. During the settlement process, you will have to disclose detailed information about your finances, your marriage, and other aspects of your personal life.
The first step is choosing a divorce attorney that can explain to you California family law and guide you through the process. Keep in mind that all the information you share with your attorney is confidential. This is why it is important to prepare for your first meeting. Take the time to think about what you have and what you want so that you can get the most out of the meeting.
Read below for some tips to prepare for your divorce consultation.
Prepare mentally and emotionally
Your attorney is going to ask you some deeply personal questions about subjects that you probably do not share with other people. You will find yourself talking about marital or family difficulties that you have more than likely kept hidden from your friends and family. You may be feeling frustration and anger during this time. Your meeting will be easier if you come to terms with these emotions before meeting with your attorney.
Have a list of assets and debts
Assets such as bank accounts, homes, retirement funds, and even cars that you and your spouse have acquired during your marriage will be divided in your divorce settlement. Debt will also be subject to the divorce agreement. Be prepared to have a candid discussion about finances with your lawyer. This will provide an opportunity for your attorney to identify any issues that might affect the settlement.
Be ready to talk about income
Income is going to be an important factor with regard to alimony and child support. The amount of income you generate versus your wife can be a deciding factor in how much you will be paying in support.
Know what you want
Take time to think about what type of outcome you want from the divorce settlement. Be honest with yourself about what you are willing to handle when it comes to custody, what is worth fighting for, and what you can live without when the divorce is final. It is more than likely that you will have to negotiate over several things before your wife agrees to the terms of the settlement. Be prepared to be flexible.
By taking time to make a few preparations, you can manage a substantial amount of the stress related to divorce before you even meet with your attorney. In addition to preparing yourself mentally and emotionally, it is important that you understand your rights in California.
